Is It Time To Quit?

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There are times in our lives when you make the choice to quit and sometimes the world makes the choice for you, both are painful, however, with the right support, both can be the start of something better.

Hey World Changer,

It's March already! I love this time of year - it really does feel like a new energy is emerging, which means new beginnings, but it can mean endings also.

Nicola Sturgeon, Scotland’s First Minister, certainly took us all by surprise with her shock ending and the news of her resignation a few weeks ago.

Whether you’re a fan of Nicola or not, I thought her resignation speech was very inspiring and really did exemplify great leadership. Knowing when to quit something for the greater good of yourself and others really is an amazing quality.

You can listen to an interview discussing when to quit with Kaye Adams on Radio Scotland, here.

Quitting always gets such a negative judgement, it's viewed as a failure, but carrying on and burning yourself out causing yourself harm, is not a measure of success.

Don’t get me wrong, there have been many times in my life when I have exhausted myself to see something through to the end, but it has always been for something that’s important and quitting wasn’t an option because the alternative of staying with the status quo was worse. Discernment is the key here, weighing up the pros and cons and establishing which outcome is right for you, and the people around you. Evaluating your position to ensure it's not sacrificing your values, health and happiness.

Of course, sometimes we have to stay put. Limited resources, skillsets and opportunities can mean choices aren’t as abundant as we’d like and sometimes we have to do some things we don’t want to do in order to progress and create the life we really want to live.

Our Change Your World Every Day coach of the week, Simon Tyler, summed this up nicely in one of his sessions where he spoke about acceptance. Acceptance is a biggie, sometimes when life is challenging, upsetting and difficult. In these circumstances we don’t want to, or find it impossible, to accept our situation - but Simon offered a middle road and simply said “accept it for now”.

You can watch Simon’s coaching session on YouTube, here.

Watch Simon's Coaching Session

This is so simple, but very effective! It gives a sense of hope. Having an honest appraisal of your life is essential to working out what to quit and eject from your life, and what to keep.

If something is causing you stress, unhappiness and stealing all your joy,

why are you doing it?

If you find you have no drive, passion or motivation for something, these are indicators that it’s time for a change or to quit altogether. I appreciate the practicalities of change aren’t that simple, but the decision is.

Something is either in alignment with your goals, purpose, health, and happiness, or it’s not - and if it's not,

its time to change.

It’s often the indecision and limbo that perpetuates a problem. When we make a decision, the solutions and the ‘how’ follow. For example, you may have been thinking of a career change, or walking away from a relationship.

You’ve deliberated the pro’s and con and you know its going to cause upset and upheaval, but what is your heart calling for? Often when it comes to decisions, we try to figure them out only with our heads, but your heart will ALWAYS guide you right.

If you’re finding yourselves at a crossroads in life, and don’t know what road to take, just take a moment, focus on your heart and ask the questions you seek answers to. Pay attention to how the different solutions feel in your heart. What does your head say when you ask the same questions? Are the responses coming from a place of fear or courage? Is your head and heart in alignment?

You’ll know what to do when you feel it, rather than think it.

When I was trying to decide to leave my very secure, 18 year career in the BBC, I read the following quote:

It was clear after that.

Of course, making big life-changing decisions is easier if you have the right support around you. People who can ask you the right questions to help you figure it out, and I was very fortunate to be surrounded by my CYW coaches. But, you can gain access to this same expertise. If you are ready to make some changes and don’t know what direction to take, check out all our coaching services and start changing your world today.

As always, I’m here if you would like to chat anything through or have any queries about any of our services, just book in a free call with me.

Wishing you all health and happiness,

From Suzy & the CYW Team

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